Why do women always lie on there profiles?

[terrybogard23]

i've been to different dating sites,and it seems the women always says "i don't care about looks" and this and that,but they really do.i just feel that alot of women when they say they don't care about something,it's the complete opposite.

[southernfinery]

`hi terry and yes sometimes the profiles are misleading but if folks like you and I put the truth of what we are looking for in another then that's two less profiles that are deceiving.In any case I wish you the best and I hope you find the love of your life soon so you can begin the process of growing old together......gbu

[cookinbubbles]

`honey, I just looked at your profile. You state that you ae very friendly, kind honest and caring. Your photo looks like you're about to pop the camera man in the nose and that isn't a "friendly" look in your eyes either.
And may I also say that you did not fill out your preferences so the ladies don't really know what you are looking for.
Beleive me, that is important. Take the time and if you can change your photo to show your smile and so those beautiful big eyes of your shine with sweetness and not look menacing. Okay??

That being said, If everyone was as wonderful as thier profile states, no one would have ever divorced them or dumped them. Everyone says what they think others want to hear. No one is ever going to say, "If you and I hit it off and we go out, I will turn into a B---- after 2 drinks." Or "The minute I get you alone, its pants down baby because all I want is to get into them."
You have to sort of look at everything people say with a grain of salt....sometimes with the whole salt shaker. LOL
Just keep at it. If YOU are the nice guy you say you are, some lovely BBW will want you in a heartbeat.

[terrybogard23]

cookinbubbles wrote: `honey, I just looked at your profile. You state that you ae very friendly, kind honest and caring. Your photo looks like you're about to pop the camera man in the nose and that isn't a "friendly" look in your eyes either.
And may I also say that you did not fill out your preferences so the ladies don't really know what you are looking for.
Beleive me, that is important. Take the time and if you can change your photo to show your smile and so those beautiful big eyes of your shine with sweetness and not look menacing. Okay??

That being said, If everyone was as wonderful as thier profile states, no one would have ever divorced them or dumped them. Everyone says what they think others want to hear. No one is ever going to say, "If you and I hit it off and we go out, I will turn into a B---- after 2 drinks." Or "The minute I get you alone, its pants down baby because all I want is to get into them."
You have to sort of look at everything people say with a grain of salt....sometimes with the whole salt shaker. LOL
Just keep at it. If YOU are the nice guy you say you are, some lovely BBW will want you in a heartbeat.




i never lie in my profile.and the reason i look serious is because that is my martial arts pose,i take karate and martial arts is not a game,but i could maybe put some more nicer looking pictures of me smiling or whatever.but i am nice,if that person will get to know me,they will find i am one of the nicest people they weill ever meet,so they just have to trust my profile.and i have put nicer pictures up of me before on other sites,same thing.i see what your saying,but people maybe should be more honest so i won't waste my time and there's.i could be focusing more on someone who actually likes me then me wasting time on them if they would have just been more honest.and my avatar is cut off,if the whole picture came threw,you could clearly see i was in a karate stance. i love karate more then anything,just wanted people to see that side of me that's all.

[cookinbubbles]

`hey, karate is cool. It is such an interesting way of life and congrats for finding that it works for you. Am looking forward to different pictures of you.
You are right of course, people SHOULD be more honest. Its a sad thing that people are not.

[princessadriana]

`I get the feelng that you are a fast mover. Like how is it that you continue to feel mislead, no matter what pic u put up or what site you are on. Doesn't seem like it's lying women, but a pushy man. Another thing, it is great that you have karate, but really woment don't care about that much, unless it's her 6yr old taking those pictures in his little karate suit. Or if she is also a karate buff.....gonna be hard to find, maybe you should be looking on karatepassions.com

If you have filled out information about yourself, and added a picture, there is no need for us to waste OUR precious time on a guy we aren't into, so obviously those women HAD an interest in you, and you somehow, pushed them away. If a woman wasn't into you, she has enough to evaluate to bypass you if she wants. A caring, sweet , and sincere man is attractive. A nosiy, needy, andpushy man isn't.

If I have offended you, trust me, I am sorry. But I choose honesty, not sugar coating.

Kisses and Cupcakes
Princess

[chilatin (deleted)]

`As princessadriana said, "A nosiy, needy, andpushy man isn't. " Don't come on too strong or needy, that's what I've learned...lol...You're still in the process of getting to know each other. Take the time with the other person. As some articles on dating say once you get past the 3 month period you find out the real person. Cus during those 3 months you're in a "honey/happy stage."

As when women say they want someone "nice," it's true but they want someone that won't be walked over. I'm guessing lol. Also, its their choice in men: looks. This site has some nice ladies on here. If it works out than good and if it doesn't move on.

Wish you the best on here.

[chilatin (deleted)]

`As princessadriana said, "A nosiy, needy, andpushy man isn't. " Don't come on too strong or needy, that's what I've learned...lol...You're still in the process of getting to know each other. Take the time with the other person. As some articles on dating say once you get past the 3 month period you find out the real person. Cus during those 3 months you're in a "honey/happy stage."

As when women say they want someone "nice," it's true but they want someone that won't be walked over. I'm guessing lol. Also, its their choice in men: looks. This site has some nice ladies on here. If it works out than good and if it doesn't move on.

Wish you the best on here.

[princessadriana]

chilatin wrote: `As princessadriana said, "A nosiy, needy, andpushy man isn't. " Don't come on too strong or needy, that's what I've learned...lol...You're still in the process of getting to know each other. Take the time with the other person. As some articles on dating say once you get past the 3 month period you find out the real person. Cus during those 3 months you're in a "honey/happy stage."

As when women say they want someone "nice," it's true but they want someone that won't be walked over. I'm guessing lol. Also, its their choice in men: looks. This site has some nice ladies on here. If it works out than good and if it doesn't move on.

Wish you the best on here.






Ahahahaha Are you teasing me about my typos? That was horrible, ahahaha. Oh well. And good insight. LOL

Kisses and Cupcakes
Princess

[chilatin (deleted)]

`What typos? Lol. Well thank ya very mucho. Lol.

[southernfinery]

`hey karata guy huh,pretty interesting side of yourself to share with others.I like ti-chi,due to the slower fluid movement.I really don't pay the pics that much attention,I guess because I have had way to many ppl judging me by my cover and so I refuse to do it to another.I read the profiles and ask questions but mainly pay attention to what they say in conversation.Like if he doesn't like polite conversation then I know he's looking for cyber-sex talk so next.If he blames women for his life or the lack thereof then that is easy enough to pick up on and we hit next.If he is just plain rude then hit next quickly and yes you can tell by his first few lines.Like if he doesn't ask how ur doing after you ask him how's he doing or if you say something to him in a forum and he doesn't respond in kind or if you take the time to send a happy birthday wish and they don't say ty.These are all big red flags and imply that this guy is only out for self and usually have written on their profile that they are nice=nice to self,not so nice to others.If they advertise their honesty then you can pretty much bet their hiding something.If they are always accusing you of one thing or another,implied or directly then it is because that is what they are doing.Imo people need to take a little bit more time for politeness verses the cold shoulder.When you have made more then one attempt at being polite and they don't respond in kind then you are justified in telling them in no uncertain terms why you choose to look elsewhere for friendship.

[chachkimooch (deleted)]

`I wonder what this site would be like if everyone really was truthful... would anyone ever get a response? Now, instead of hearing lies from men, I get to read them online. Why can't men just be honest and save themselves some time and effort? I mean really... long walks on the beach? Gentle and caring? C'mon already! Some guys can't even get their lies straight, and their age and DOB are mismatched on their profile. Look at it this way, if, in a perfect world, a guy gets away with lying through his teeth online and meets the perfect woman, isn't he eventually going to have to meet her face to face? Won't the truth come out then? Why not just come out with the real s--- from the get go and save the heartache on both sides?

[amusicluvr (deleted)]

` Terry - Unless you want a masochist, who enjoys getting beaten up, a karate pose, with angry face, isn't the best idea for a dating site. A photo of you standing in a non-combat pose, wearing a gi, and belt, with a smile on your face, would convey the messages that you enjoy Karate, and can be a nice guy. Karate is not just about clobbering people. It is also about controlling yourself.

As for people lieing, some do, and some don't. Some who don't are accused of lieing because of vague words with different definitions. What is "nice" to one person is "not nice" to another. Some think it is "nice" to sit on their butts watching tv 10 hours a day, while to others that would be Hell on Earth. Some think it is "fun" to spend every free moment at garage sales shopping for Stars Wars toys. Others would find that totally boring. People need to learn to communicate by using more accurate words, and avoiding cliches with little to no meaning.

When you do encounter a liar, suck it up, and get over it. Write them off, forget it, move on, and find a non-liar to replace them. Do NOT spend the rest of your life fixating on, and obsessing about, someone who lied to you in the past. Recall just enough of the past to avoid making the same mistakes over, and over. Otherwise, largely forget the past, plan for the future, and live in the present.

[terrybogard23]

`hi all! it's been so long,im a nice guy that takes his time,im not pushy nor needy and i don't move fast.women have lied on the profiles before.and i do agree about the picture,it was the only one i had at the time but i uploaded a better one for review.i really am a nice heart-warming guy,despite the old picture. cheers everyone!

[witchyrose]

`As frusterated as you ar with "women" being dishonest, think about this: men are the very same way. we are all visually stimulated, wether it is by eyes, body appearance, etc, each person is turned on by something different. We women run into the same issues on many dating sites... I have run into it on BBW/ plus sized sites as ell by men who are not truly looking for a larger sized woman, but rather a woman with a few larger sized features but still want that size 4 or size 6 frame... so it's how you choose to handle it and deal with it.